Every human being is a unique universe, but psychologists who have a keen eye for details keep discovering new behavioural patterns that are believed to be rooted in our childhood and can be applied to everyone.
We decided to share these useful psychology tricks; maybe they will positively affect your communication skills and make your life easier in some way.
# 01 find out if a person likes you, pick a word
and every time he/she uses this word or synonymous word phrases, nod and smile. If he/she does like you, watch him/her start using the word all the time.
#02 memorizing the bizarre
If you want someone to remember, something this easy trick will make anything stick inside their head just take whatever you need them to memorize and frame it in a strange and unexpected way maybe you come up with a crazy example or use some weird mnemonic device the more distinct it is the easier it will be for them to remember thanks to a psychological phenomenon call THE BIZARRENESS EFFECT it’s real researchers noticed that distinct material is more memorable but it’s not just because our memory get any better, distinct material just speeds up the encoding process it also stops your brain from tuning things out so give your words more sticking power by phrasing them in the weirdest way possible.
03 # Become an ultimate ‘Rock, paper, scissors’ champion!
To win at the ‘Rock, Paper, Scissors’ game, right before playing it, ask your opponent a random question. Most of the time your confused friend will throw ‘scissors.’
4# The framing effect
People will give two completely different answers to a question by changing the way informations is presented to them the key is to point your audience in the direction of the choice that you want them to make okay let’s say you have two different types of yoghurt one uses a negative frame by saying it 2% fat the other one uses positive frame by saying it’s 98% fat-free which yogurt do think people will pick.
Research shows that people favor the positive frame because it emphasizes gains instead of loses even though both yogurt are exactly the same.
this psychologically distorts our decision-making
5# the influence of absolute certainty
Let’s take the farming effect just one step further people’s mind can be changed creating or removing absolute certainty the effect explains that people are more likely to do things when they believe there’s no risk involved so if you add a chance of something bad happening most people will get nervous and back out let’s say a friend of yours is doing something you think is a terrible idea but they’re confident that nothing negative is going to happen you can easily help them make the right decision by creating some level of call it REALISTIC DOUBTS it’ll be their choice to make but there’s a good chance the risk will change their mind and help in the long run.
6# The power of multiple options
What do you do when your friend wants to tell you something but they can’t quite find words how do you help them communicate their feelings you give them two options to choose from if they seem upset just ask them if they’re stressed about work or if you did something wrong it doesn’t matter if you guess right the simple fact that you gave them options will make it much easier for them to express themselves.
7# Strategic passivity
How do you communicate frustration and disappointment without hurting anyone’s feelings well normally when something goes wrong we just say you didn’t do this right this feels a personal attack It’s active and it’s accusatory luckily a small change in phrasing can completely transform your tone so instead you might say ‘this wasn’t done right using the passive voice will show that you’re unhappy without offending or insulting anyone
8# If you believe a person doesn’t like you
ask if you can borrow his pencil or pen. On one hand, people tend not to help those whom they don’t like, but on the other hand, it’s such a small favor that your ‘hater’ most likely won’t be able to say ‘No’. Eventually he will come to the conclusion that you’re not that bad
9# Laughing Admirers
When a group of people starts laughing with each other, each individual will glance at the person they feel closest to. This is pretty good way to see who enjoys whose company the most at your office, or within your group of friends.
10# The von Restorff effect
You will find that people are attracted to things that stand out when stimulus noticeably differs from the others it becomes more memorable this bias is called VON RESTORFF OR ISOLATION EFFECT lists are common example let’s say your boss hands you a list of things that he want you to get today you notice that one item is highlighted now he didn’t say you should prioritize any one thing over the others but you end up doing the highlighted tasks first anyway people do this because isolation creates importance and urgency if something differs in size shape or color we assume it’s more significant than everything around it so the next time you’re delegating responsibilities or just making a grocery list find ways to isolate your priorities.
#11 Destroying Ear-Worms
Ever had a song stuck inside your head?
I know you have…
The melody just keeps replaying over and over inside your mind, but you can’t quite seem to remember which song it is! And while you can’t remember, you keep trying to remember. Which leads to you wasting a huge amount of time trying to remember the name of something incredibly pointless.
Well, here’s the common psychology trick you’ve been waiting your entire life to hear.
Think of the end of the song. Not the beginning, or the middle. The end. Your mind will continue to think of things that are unfinished or incomplete, according to the Zeignark effect.
Therefore if you think of the end of the melody, the song will be complete and your mind will reset. This’ll release the song from your mind, so you can get back to focusing on something productive.
12# Communicating value
Communicating value everyone wants to be wanted it makes us feel valuable and important it raises our self-esteem while relieving emotional pain in a professional environment people are constantly searching for value they want to be helpful members of the team they want recognition from their boss and they want the approval of their co-workers when value is on the line people are willing to push themselves as much as it takes so by communicating that you need someone you’re not only making them feel better, you are also motivating to work harder.
13# Have you ever wished the subway wasn’t that crowded in the morning?
In crowded places look right in front of you, in the direction in which you’re going. You will be impressed watching the crowd literally give way to you. This trick is very easy to explain: in crowded places we tend to look other people in the eyes so that we know which direction someone is going. We take the opposite way so not to run into each other.
14# The Snack-man
If you are in a group of people, or even just with one other person, and you feel like conflict is about to break out, try this.
People who are eating usually feel comfortable within their environment. Eating is a calming activity, and will likely help to smooth out conflict.
If someone is angry with you and you start to eat, this will help keep conflict at bay. This fact was originally discovered after two people were fighting and one guy stepped in between them whilst eating a slice of pizza.
He was coined the snack-man.
If you want someone to help you, start your phrase with the words ‘I need your help…’ People hate feeling guilty and that’s why they won’t be able to refuse to help.
#16 Your friend will most likely help you carry, let’s say, a box of your stuff
if you continue talking while handing over the box. The majority of people won’t even notice you’re handing them something and will take it. However, some people more attentive and less close to you may get pretty confused.
17# People remember what happened in the beginning and at the end of the day.
The things that happened between these 2 points in time are blurry. So, when discussing the time of a job interview, choose either a very early time or a very late time to make
18# the supportive foundation
How do you get people to make your opinions seriously often times people turn you out because they don’t heard why why bother listening to you if you’re not listening to them so let them know you are listening before you share your perspective add something i hear what you are saying or that’s really good point if you show that you’re invested in them then they’ll do the same for you building the kind of supporting foundation that facilitates honest and productive discussions.
19# If you a problem with someone, but you don’t want to accuse them of something directly, change the way you speak.
For example, the phrase “You didn’t close the window” should be replaced with “The window remained open.”
20# Find out who’s watching you
Do you ever wonder if someone is watching you? Sometimes you might think someone has their eye on you but can’t be sure. After all, you don’t want to assume, and directly asking would be pretty awkward for both you and the person in question. There’s one simple solution to this dilemma.
- All you have to do is yawn, visibly.
- If you don’t feel like yawning, just fake it.
- Make sure the person you’re testing this on can see you easily.
- If they are watching you, they’ll yawn shortly after.
So, how does this work? Essentially, yawning is contagious. If you see someone yawning, you tend to feel the urge to yawn as well. Watch a video of someone yawning and see what happens. Even if you don’t yawn, you’ll find yourself really wanting to! This is one of those psychological tricks that works so well that sometimes just reading the word “yawn” can cause you to yawn.
20 # make yourself memorable in job interviews
Make yourself memorable in job interviews do you get stressed out during job interviews, perhaps you are worried won’t stand out enough to accompany interviewing tons of people a sure way to stand out from the crowd is to use the serial position effect this is bases on the idea that people tend to remember the first and last parts of things and not much of the middle.
Imagine you are trying to memorize a list of groceries in about ten seconds you are likely to remember the first few and the last couple but not much of what was in the middle you tend to remember the beginnings ands of things so next time you are on a job interview be sure to insert your name and talk about yourself at the beginning and end and if all else fails you can always wear a weird hat that can usually jog a memory hey just kidding don’t do that.